💌 Personal Essays

You Say You Want Bi+ Community But You’re a Bad Villager

Bailey reflects on the negative impact of me-centric thinking and how we move forward.

Apr 9 • Bisexual Killjoy

Killjoy Habits: Bring the Energy

Jace reflects on what it takes to be in it for the long haul.

Mar 25 • Bisexual Killjoy

Nobody is just "a little bit bi," But Everyone is Bi+

Jace reflects on the “overlap” of Bi erasure and Bi resistance.

Feb 25 • Bisexual Killjoy

Bi+ People Were Here

What Creating Change taught Bailey about belonging, erasure, and showing up anyway.

Jan 28 • Bisexual Killjoy

Killjoy Habits: On Clarity

Oh, it's also my birthday 🎂

Jan 14 • Bisexual Killjoy

Being a Killjoy Across the Pond

Jace has another life update, and this time, it involves a plane

Dec 3, 2025 • Bisexual Killjoy and Bi Academic

Arriving Late to My Own Bi+ History

Bailey reflects on lost archives, long-distance activism, and the ache of building bi+ community from fragments.

Oct 22, 2025 • Bisexual Killjoy

When Small Starts Lead to Big Rewards

Jace reflects on their beginnings as a Bi+ educator

Oct 8, 2025 • Bisexual Killjoy

Challenge Accepted: Plan a Wedding in 10 Days or Less

Jace tells the tale of how they got married with all the juicy details 🥂

Sep 17, 2025 • Bisexual Killjoy

Married, Monogamous, Still Bisexual

Bailey reflects on three years of monogamous marriage & strangers' audacity.

Sep 3, 2025 • Bisexual Killjoy

How Did No One Realize I Had ADHD?

Seriously, how did we not figure this out earlier?

Apr 9, 2025 • Bisexual Killjoy

I didn't feel guilty about being a killjoy until...

It's been a hell of a week.

Feb 14, 2025 • Bisexual Killjoy and Bi Academic

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