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Chris Gallant's avatar

I'm feeling this so hard right now. We're seeing petty intra LGBT feuding blowing up at the same time swathes of our fragile community seems to be sinking back into the shadows. Just proudly declaring your bisexuality feels likes it's met with echoes.

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Bisexual Killjoy's avatar

Watching it in real time is wild work. Honestly, the majority of my event organizing is rooted in: Do I want to do it? Will I have fun if people show up or not? If the answer is no to either of those questions, it ain't happening.

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lauren's avatar

great read and so well written 👏

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Bisexual Killjoy's avatar

thank you so much for reading!

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Cecilia Winter's avatar

This hit me so deeply. The way you describe bi+ burnout feels painfully accurate, especially the part about baking the cake, serving it, and cleaning up after. It captures that invisible labor so well.

I also love how you highlight rest not as indulgence but as strategy. That shift in framing feels powerful. Do you have any small practices you return to when you feel yourself slipping toward burnout, something that helps you pause before you hit the wall?

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Bisexual Killjoy's avatar

Oh, Cecilia, I wish I had an answer other than, "I haven't found them yet." The reason I'm in therapy has a lot to do with my inability to slow down before I crash. Something I'm working on being better at is scheduling off time. That could be an afternoon at a thrift store, a stroll through IKEA, or even an overnight trip to the next town over. I find that having things to look forward to that are just for me are good reminders that life is more than just service to others. Sometimes, life is allowed to be about me.

xx,

Bailey

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Cecilia Winter's avatar

Thank you for sharing that so honestly!!! I really felt the power in what you said about scheduling off time, it is such a simple idea but so hard to practice when you are used to always showing up for others. I love how you framed those little getaways or even just a stroll through thrift stores (OMG, I loooove thrift stores btw!!) as reminders that life is also meant to be enjoyed, not just given away. I’m learning the same, that small things planned just for me make a huge difference in keeping burnout at bay.

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